The nature of our love and attention to our spouse is so self-centered that sometimes we might fall in to pits of disappointment every now and then. The word self-centered has to do with only me but not us and it always raises the question which has me in it. “Why don’t you tell me that?”, “What do you do for me?” etc.
As your draw your attention more into the boundaries of other people lives, you will do an error that you will just do one thing to mess around with it that it all happen because you are not just handling with care but with a lot of feelings that are not responsible and matured.
People tend to believe this behavior comes because they are so in love with their spouse and they want to put their feelings in to it. The more feelings they put the more mistakes they made to please one another.
Love is not just a bunch of feelings that will just say ‘I do this for you because I have a felling for you’ rather love is a commitment and bondage that will stay itself the same no matter what feelings you have for one another. Love only express himself in a more self-less and caring way.
Love is not the reason for you to be angry but your feelings are. Love is not the reason that makes you speak unwholesome word but your feelings are. Love will not say as it wants when it wants. Love will say what other people needed to hear.
Love is above any feelings that you have for one another since your feelings are just for a while but love is what will be with you till the end. So don’t trust your feelings. Rather use them to build love for your spouse.
I think we all agree that without those feelings there is no hint that you are in love. Those feelings are the passion of your life. The moment you stop feeling things when they just come towards you, that will be the last time you may ever see them. Our feelings are the burning fuels in all areas of our lives.
But we have to be sure that these feelings come from the Lord or the devil. When we have some thoughts that we put more emphasis on, they will soon turn in to a feelings and soon control our lives.
If we don’t control our feelings, they will control us and our lives.
Therefore, true love never cause harm to others but your feelings could do that if you don’t know how to manage them. There is always a problem when you let out of your feelings come out of anger instead of love. Relationships can be rough and intense sometimes when things in life becomes difficult to bear with.
The best way to manage them is to work as a team no matter what.
To get the best result out of our marriage, we need to live as one to work, to create, to endure, to manage and to organize. Despite all of things we can do mentioned above, our specialization at work could be different. Our way of thinking to solve the same problem could also be different. But we need to think in such a way that we all working the best we can to build our family. There should be any partiality or self-centered thinking that could break the family in to pieces.
Mark 10:8 “…and the two will become one flesh.” So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
I believe many of the issues of life can be solved if we could just take our spouse as one with our selves.
No one would do any harm to his own body. Instead he will take a good care of himself and leave not an open door for the enemy to come and destroy himself.
That said, I would like to say also before every long before two individual got divorced, there was a time that they stop thinking as one, husband and wife like the word of God says they are.
Being one in the flesh is the secret to having a good marital relationship.
Ephesians 5:28: So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
Better yet, there is a greater challenge for all of those who already obeyed the first commandment of marriage that is to love their wives as their own bodies.
Ephesians 5:25-33: Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of.
How does Christ love the church?
1. Christ loves the church unconditionally
2. Christ disgraced himself to look after the church that was going to destruction
3. Christ never judges his church
4. Christ always covers up the sin of the church with his blood
5. Christ never criticized his church
6. Christ sacrificed everything including his life for the good of the church
7. Christ never lets the devil get the best of the church
8. Christ always intercedes for the church
9. Christ never gives up on the church
10. Christ died for the church
11. Chris promised the church he will come one day to take his church to the glory of God
There is no greater love than Christ loves the church since he gave his life for her.
All of these would have been nothing if it had been not for the last one.
Here is the best one:
12. Christ loved the church even if the church claimed she doesn’t want his help to be saved.
To better explain the last sentence, think of the time when Christ was given to be crucified.
He had done it even if the church was making fun of him, telling him he would do a lot better if he could do some form of magic and save himself first from the death penalty.
There is nothing Christ has not done for us I can possibly imagine.
This is greater love because there is no greater love than to lay your life for someone’s life.
If you are willing to pay all the price for the well being of your spouse, that is the greatest form of love.
That is to lay your soul for one another.
Does this mean that we have to disobey the commandments of the lord just to please our spouses no matter what? Absolutely not. If we walk in love in the eyes of God and people, there won’t come a time we please one and disobey the other.
Love covers sin and bears commandments. Love never fails. In conclusion, if we are willing to lay ourselves for one another, we will always be capable to solve our problems in love.
Brothers and sisters in Christ, I would like to leave you with the following scripture from Proverb 3:3.
Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.