Once in a while we all find ourselves in to the sin of gossiping others. Well if you tell a person not to speak judgment about another person, he will not definitely accept it because he might not speak anything at all.
Yes we are this much gossipers. For God sake, what if we speak good things of that person to others. We tend to say kind words when the person is around but we turn our back and gossip when the person is not with us.
I believe there are two opportunities that we might find ourselves in gossiping others. We may be badly hurt or someone close to us is hurt by this person we are gossiping. Or we are just doing it to comfort someone who says is badly hurt by the person we are gossiping.
Whatever the cause is we are saying when we gossip that we are better and what we claim we say or we do has a better ground than the other person. Gossiping is a spiritual illness that affects everyone due to lack of love and humility for one another.
That is why we need the blood of Jesus to cure us from this illness. Gossiping is a sin. It doesn’t please God to backbite and gossip our brothers and sisters.
We may find ourselves in a position where we have been hurt, neglected and prosecuted by other including those who we think loved us most. But the right action to take here in response to that is not revenge or gossiping.
Gossiping completely destroys the good reputation of the person. In this world our history and our name plays a very important role to our existence. There is a good probability that if we gossip we could easily destroy the good name of a person.
In my understanding of the word of God, God doesn’t want you to destroy the reputation of your brothers and sisters. The right way to solve a conflict is to bring it to the cross and leave it there in prayer until God give his response regarding our situation.
The word of God also instructs us that if we found our friend guilty of sin against us, we may advise him alone and if this is not working, we may use the church to advise him. But then after that we can leave him to the Lord if he/she is not willing to stop hunting us down.
I know one possible reason not to advise a friend in person is that people are kind of repulsive in not accepting their mistakes. Even little children do not say, “I am sorry”. Why? Because they learn it from us, the grown ones, their parents.
But lets us change the world around us, and the task might not be easy but let us start working from us and to our closest family or friend. Our closest ones will not interpret the message of love for wrong because they know we love them and everything we do has to do with their own good.
Then the culture of responsibility will be developed in our community that has the guts to stand up for their own work and cannot tolerate when others act irresponsibly. When we change our selves through the conviction of the Holy Spirit, we have the power to advice and turn other people from their wicked ways and help them identify the right way to form relationships.
Please God give us the courage even if we profited hate, the courage to speak well and not against a person. May the Lord bless us with the boldness of spirit and humility not to gossip others and the greater courage to advice and to win our friend back with love and full of empathy for one another.
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.
A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.
Whoever goes about slandering reveals secre
s, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered.
There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers.
To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people.
“You shall not spread a false report. You shall not join hands with a wicked man to be a malicious witness.
And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them.
Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit.
Do not speak evil against one another, brothers. The one who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks evil against the law and judges the law. But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge.
For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases.
Psalm 101:5 Whoever slanders his neighbor secretly I will destroy. Whoever has a haughty look and an arrogant heart I will not endure.
If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person's religion is worthless.
1 Timothy 5:13
Besides that, they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house, and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not.
You shall not go around as a slanderer among your people, and you shall not stand up against the life of your neighbor: I am the Lord.
The one who conceals hatred has lying lips, and whoever utters slander is a fool.
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
“You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.
They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips,